Ah,
The Holidays! Most people with a normalized relationship to food and eating look forward to the holidays, including the feasting that accompanies these celebrations. However, if you are struggling with food/eating/weight issues you may be petrified at the very thought of facing a holiday party or sitting down with family to share a meal. In one sense ( when you can hear your truth channel) you understand that
it is just food. There is no reason to fear food and eating, right? It is not a deadly poison or a sinister enemy. If you are reading this particular blog you probably understand that the fear can be so strong that it is almost debilitating. In a way,
it is not just food. It is facing the challenge of being surrounded by sumptuous food that you would love to eat; yet you are anxious that if you start eating you may not be able to stop. It is being deathly afraid to taste Grandma's sweet potato casserole which you dearly love because you are convinced that you will gain 50 pounds from such an indulgence. Or, your concern might be over seeing relatives that you haven't seen in ages because you are certain that they will make comments about your weight and body. Here are some suggestions to help you through these times:
- Remember that food and feasting are a part of all celebrations, in every culture.
- Although food will be part of the holiday experiences, try to not make your celebrations all about the food.
- Have a plan of action for challenging situations. For example, rehearse how you might respond if someone comments about your food, eating or weight.
- Designate a "support partner" that you can contact should stressful situations arise.
- Focus on enjoying the foods you only get to eat once or twice a year. Think about pleasant memories involved with sharing these foods with those we love.
- Strive to keep a normal schedule of eating, sleeping and moderate activity to give some stability during potentially chaotic times.
- Focus on all that you do enjoy about the holidays. The music, time with friends and family, the special aroma and decorations!
- Remember, it is for a season. This time period will not last forever, even if it might seem that way at times!
- Listen for and confront eating disorder chatter by turning up "the truth channel". Don't give in to ED!
Remember ... the most important conversation you can change is the one you have with yourself!
Awesome post Reba! I'm going to tweet it!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, Reba. You mentioned to rehearse how to respond if someone asks you about your weight or appearance. I'm afraid I don't know where to start. Can you share some of your ideas - if not now, then maybe in your next post?
ReplyDeleteI started my 'diet' right after Christmas. After each Holiday season I dread the "New Years diet" mind set everyone and every diet company bombards us with. As if dealing with family, food, and the stress of it all for the last month wasn't enough! Thanks for your insight Reba! Really helpful! The Holiday season is upon us and I WILL enjoy it!
ReplyDeleteWonderful Post, Reba.
ReplyDeleteI plan to read it again especially before every TFE (Terrifying Food Encounter).
I, too, could use some suggestions for responses to the inevitable food/weight comments.
Most definately the holidays can be a scary time for those suffering with all kinds of struggles or issues! Having a person you can call or text in the midst of a holiday gathering could be helpful. When people make comments, how assertive are you comfortable being? Perhaps letting someone know that you are offended may help you feel better and them have a better understanding as to what is approriate or appreciated. If assertiveness is not your thing, then coming up with a "self-plan" on what to do with those comments that will help you not take them to heart. Minimize time spent with those that repeatedly offend you! Make a plan as to what needs to happen for YOU to make the holidays more than "just bearable". You can do it!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for the article.
ReplyDeleteIt’s wonderful to be able to enjoy celebration food without the guilt!